Happiness has different meanings for everyone; we each have to define and seek it for ourselves. Ask others, "what makes you happy?" or "what is something that makes you feel good?" and people will give you completely different answers, after all it's all relative isn't it? So, how do you go about finding happiness and peace within? Here are a few of my thoughts...
Decide what is important to you in life. Do you value a certain kind of job; material things; a relationship; time alone or with others; time to relax or to be creative; time to read, listen to music or have fun? These are just a few of the possibilities.
Think about times when you have felt happy, good or content. Where were you? Whom were you with? What were you doing, thinking or experiencing that made you feel happy?
Decide to make more time in your life to do more of what is important to you and makes you feel happier. To be happy, you have to make happiness a priority in your life.
Start with little things and work up to bigger ones. Little things might include reading an engrossing book for 15 minutes; going for a walk; telephoning a friend; or buying scented soap, shampoo, candles or tea that you enjoy every time you use them.
Focus on what is positive about yourself, others and life in general instead of dwelling on the negative. Write down as many positive things as you can think of in a journal. Keep it handy to read over and continue adding to it.
Appreciate what is working in your life at the moment. In the major areas of your life, such as your health, job, love life, friends, family, money and living situation, what is going well?
It's okay to ask for professional help. Talk to someone, such as psychotherapist or career counsellor to help you out what would make you happy.
Read books on the subject of happiness. Wise people have been writing about it for hundreds of years. In the bookshop, look under pyschology, spirituality or philosophy.
The chances are that your happiest days are yet to come. At any time and at any age, it is possible to feel happier than you have been. Doesn't that make you happier?